The plain truth is that the more intimately you're acquainted with someone, the more distinctly you'll see their flaws, their weaknesses. That's simply the way it is. This is why relationships fail, why children are abandoned, why friendships don't last. You may think you love someone until you truly perceive the way they respond when they're out of money or under pressure or hungry. Love is something entirely different. Love is choosing to serve and be with someone in spite of their repugnant heart. Love is selfless and kind, love is intentional. Love is difficult. Love is sacrifice and endurance, it's peering into the darkness of another person and resisting the impulse to leave.